Widow Me This – Why is it that 9 years after losing my husband Don to sudden death, one little smell or song or memory or anything can occur, and suddenly, I feel like it just happened, like he...
Often, our gift to this world--the thing we are here to do--is the thing we tend to fear or dislike the most. Scary how that works. I wanted to be a writer. Here I am... writing a blog, not a book.
What...
If I divide the days you’ve been gone 2661 by the months 87 By the years 7 years by the weeks 380 by the minutes 3883 by the miles I’ve driven 165,000 by the number of states I’ve...
View of “Le Canigou” – the Pyrenees’ highest mountain – from my parents’ house, after a summer storm 3 August 2020 We have been on holiday now for a “fat” week...
Since he died,
I’ve been scared a lot because I have to do everything on my own.
Since he died,
I’ve been forced to do a hell of a lot more than simply watching movies alone.
I’ve...
Grief’s gaze. I knew it as soon as I got it this week. It’s that look you get from someone who has just suffered a new great loss. It conveys so much with so little. It’s so very different from...
July, that is.
The death month.
The month that he died.
It's over.
After today.
For another year.
We now move into August,
and my anxiety finally gets to shut...
Twenty five. Twenty-five years. Next week. We only made it twenty-three years, two weeks and one day. Suzanne died on August 19, 2018. Our 23rd anniversary was August 4, 2018. This was a photo we took...
I read Kelley Lynn’s blog the other day, and felt immediate connection as she wrote about time passing, and 9 years later and Don and grief and what do you do with it or about it after a certain...
On Friday, a couple of days ago, some dear friends, Trisha, Angus & Isobel from London, came to stay for he evening/night before heading into the Swiss Alps for some summer holiday mountain respite...
Rebuilding your life after the death of a spouse or partner takes a whole lot of courage. If fear is present, know that it doesn't mean you are "stuck" in the past or that you shouldn't take that next step - it's 100% normal and your widowed community is behind you every step of the way.
February 07, 2020
